There was a post going around the stripper tumblrsphere about what is probably one of the most common lap dance rejections of all time: “I would love to but I just don’t think I could control myself.”
It’s the perfect way for customers to say no; phrased as a compliment (of sorts), it expresses interest and desire, encouraging the dancer to continue her attempts to sell and thus give the customer more attention without him committing to anything. They usually deliver this excuse with a cute smile, like it’s a joke.
I recognize that they are trying to be charming—even trying to compliment me on my attractiveness!—but it’s so hard to bite my tongue and not ask, “In what world is having less self control than my chihuahua something you want to admit to?”
This is a really interesting, and really worthwhile post, written by a stripper about the nature of consent in strip clubs, and about how boundaries are set in a way that they don’t spoil the fantasy.
Really, really worth the read.
I Pretend I'm Horny, You Pretend You're A Dog: Performing Consent In The Club: